"They know better than to try and get me to answer any questions," Joel says with a faint smile. His mother had never been particularly pleased with the way he'd refused to answer questions from her friends, instead choosing to just stare at them without answering until they left him alone, and he realizes now that it had been childish and a little bratty, but he has no intention of doing anything else if they were to start questioning him now. "Besides, all they'd hear from me over and over again is that I'm happy. That's all they need to know."
And if they were to pursue it, Joel is fairly certain Charlotte would take care of them. There's a part of him that does want to remind some of his mother's friends -- the ones who'd been just a little too invested in town gossip and the like -- that their expectations of other people are silly and unfair, that they have no right to comment on what a person chooses for themselves, but at the same time he doesn't want to make the party any more uncomfortable for Spencer than it might already be. His little mean streak that surfaces now and then doesn't need to make an appearance at a baby shower.
When Spencer mentions godparents, though, Joel pauses, thoughtful. It's not something he's given much thought to beyond the legal reasons why appointing a guardian would be a good idea were something to happen to the two of them. He's never thought of it in terms of godparents, though, likely because he doesn't have any of his own. He knows if his parents had been killed when he and Charlotte were still children, they would have gone to live with his dad's parents. If he'd been of legal age and Charlotte had still been a minor, her care would have fallen to him. But neither of them have godparents.
"Doesn't a baby have to have a baptism in order to have godparents?" he asks curiously. His parents had never been religious and Joel has identified as atheist for as long as he can remember wanting to identify as anything. "I've never thought of it much."
And now he has to. If this is something Spencer wants for their child, they're going to have to talk about it. Joel isn't necessarily opposed to it, because while he identifies as atheist, he also doesn't care enough to be very vocal about it. He's not against it, but they will have to talk about it.
"Oh, yes," he says when Spencer mentions his grandfather. "I mean, if you'd like, you should at least try to invite him. It could be really nice."
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And if they were to pursue it, Joel is fairly certain Charlotte would take care of them. There's a part of him that does want to remind some of his mother's friends -- the ones who'd been just a little too invested in town gossip and the like -- that their expectations of other people are silly and unfair, that they have no right to comment on what a person chooses for themselves, but at the same time he doesn't want to make the party any more uncomfortable for Spencer than it might already be. His little mean streak that surfaces now and then doesn't need to make an appearance at a baby shower.
When Spencer mentions godparents, though, Joel pauses, thoughtful. It's not something he's given much thought to beyond the legal reasons why appointing a guardian would be a good idea were something to happen to the two of them. He's never thought of it in terms of godparents, though, likely because he doesn't have any of his own. He knows if his parents had been killed when he and Charlotte were still children, they would have gone to live with his dad's parents. If he'd been of legal age and Charlotte had still been a minor, her care would have fallen to him. But neither of them have godparents.
"Doesn't a baby have to have a baptism in order to have godparents?" he asks curiously. His parents had never been religious and Joel has identified as atheist for as long as he can remember wanting to identify as anything. "I've never thought of it much."
And now he has to. If this is something Spencer wants for their child, they're going to have to talk about it. Joel isn't necessarily opposed to it, because while he identifies as atheist, he also doesn't care enough to be very vocal about it. He's not against it, but they will have to talk about it.
"Oh, yes," he says when Spencer mentions his grandfather. "I mean, if you'd like, you should at least try to invite him. It could be really nice."