"You'll never know unless you do it," Joel agrees, though he wouldn't call Spencer an idiot. There's nothing about this situation that's easy. His own grandparents aren't the kind of people he thinks he would call, not knowing the way they had treated his mother and father when they had first gotten together, but he could understand why his parents might have tried to get them involved. He and Charlotte are their only grandchildren and there's an urge to keep family together, regardless of what might have happened in the past.
"And I think it's going to drive you crazy until you do something about it," he adds as he steers the cart toward his car. Although he doesn't drive it very often, he's found that he's had to recently with all the trips they've been taking to pick things up for the baby. There's no way the two of them would be able to walk home with all these bags they have now and while he doesn't usually feel any particular emotion for his car -- it's just a vehicle, after all -- he is rather grateful that they have it at their disposal right now.
Opening the trunk, he begins to put the bags inside, then looks over at Spencer with a small smile. "You're going to think about it all the time. I can see it happening already and that's fine, I think I would think about it all the time, too. But the only way to know for sure one way or the other is to contact him and then it's done. If you reach out to him, you've done all you can and it can fall where it may."
He knows it won't necessarily be that easy, that there will be consequences either way, but he thinks that might be something that just has to happen. Spencer needs to know, whether he's ready to admit it to himself or not, and Joel doesn't blame him one bit. The idea is there, the seed has been planted, and he thinks the only thing to be done is to follow through with it. To really see where it goes. Maybe it won't result in anything, but then at least Spencer will know. At least they both will.
He closes the trunk, then reaches for Spencer's hands and gives them a gentle squeeze. "I think you need to do this. Maybe not at the shower, but I do think you need to try."
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"And I think it's going to drive you crazy until you do something about it," he adds as he steers the cart toward his car. Although he doesn't drive it very often, he's found that he's had to recently with all the trips they've been taking to pick things up for the baby. There's no way the two of them would be able to walk home with all these bags they have now and while he doesn't usually feel any particular emotion for his car -- it's just a vehicle, after all -- he is rather grateful that they have it at their disposal right now.
Opening the trunk, he begins to put the bags inside, then looks over at Spencer with a small smile. "You're going to think about it all the time. I can see it happening already and that's fine, I think I would think about it all the time, too. But the only way to know for sure one way or the other is to contact him and then it's done. If you reach out to him, you've done all you can and it can fall where it may."
He knows it won't necessarily be that easy, that there will be consequences either way, but he thinks that might be something that just has to happen. Spencer needs to know, whether he's ready to admit it to himself or not, and Joel doesn't blame him one bit. The idea is there, the seed has been planted, and he thinks the only thing to be done is to follow through with it. To really see where it goes. Maybe it won't result in anything, but then at least Spencer will know. At least they both will.
He closes the trunk, then reaches for Spencer's hands and gives them a gentle squeeze. "I think you need to do this. Maybe not at the shower, but I do think you need to try."